No thank you, I almost don't drink anymore!
Artist Edgar Bori has been sober for 38 years. Mathilde Desrochers, 25, has been trying to control her drinking for a year. They bear witness to their fight.
The singer-songwriter Edgar Bori.< /p>
During the holidays, alcohol may have been present in your dinners, brunches or New Year celebrations. Some drank moderately, others less. Here are two testimonials from people for whom coping with alcohol has been or still is a challenge.
Singer-songwriter Edgar Bori was in the second category until he realized his problem.
When I went to consult, people said: “you have no problem with the drink!” Me, I knew that I picked myself up on the floor of the bathroom throwing up clinging to the toilet bowl every morning while the world left for work, he says.
Between the piano, the microphone and the sound console, the artist sits in the place where he normally composes and creates. But this time, it's to tell a part of his past personal life: the story of his alcohol addiction. This is the first time he has spoken about it publicly.
He is now 68 and was 30 when he quit drinking. He was a golf professional at the time and worked at the club shop. Edgar Bori remembers.
The shop opened at 5 a.m. I was a little askew, but never moved, never sick. I drank like an Englishman, Churchill-style! One day an angel passed by and I don't necessarily believe in God, it has nothing to do with it. He was someone who was in a good mood, whom I had been seeing for three months at the golf club and he said to me, “Do you want to have a thrill in life?"
Indeed, when you have been drinking for several years, you become disillusioned. The mornings after are difficult, but you leave again. He said to me: How about quitting drinking for six months? And I said definitely!
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But the stop was not easy and the man in question had warned him.
He told me: "Stop, but promise me not to kill you!" I took up running. I was having 60 coffees a day. A year and a half later, I became completely cracked in the head and I had to consult a psychiatrist, my brother in this case. I was made straighter than an army guy who gives himself a ticket when he burns a red light. I had completely smothered the little boy in me.
He gave me a trick: you take a sheet and you write the "yes" and the "no". Everything that does not hurt those around you, the "yes", you do everything to do them and all the "no" that tire you that you no longer want to do, you do everything to stop doing them. This is where I wrote that I loved horses, but I was afraid of them. It didn't make sense, but I did everything to take care of horses for two and a half years. It saved my life!
It's in the city center, near rue Sainte-Catherine which is full of restaurants and bars, that Mathilde Desrochers, 25, tells his story.
“It's been a year since I accepted that I had a drinking problem. Me, my problem is not that I drink all the time, it's that I'm going to go too far. I'm going to blackout! »
— Mathilde Desrochers
Mathilde Desrochers, 25 years old.
< p class="e-p">I say things and I do things that I don't want. I think you have a drinking problem when you realize you regret things the next day, she explains.
Mathilde started drinking alcohol when she was 15. A few years later, she was working in the restaurant business. An environment that she left because there were too many opportunities to drink.
It was just constantly partying! But I haven't stopped drinking. What I'm doing now is learning to drink again. When I drink, if I get too drunk, I'll take a break, a glass of water. Now I calculate my drinks.
After his mother died of cancer, alcohol took up a lot of space. For the past year, with the help of an addiction worker, she has been trying to understand why she drinks and in what context.
When I have frustrations, when I'm sad or when I'm too happy. I had a super nice day, for example. Of course, with the death of my mother, I was sad and I did not feel well. I turned to alcohol, when I could have communicated my feelings on an empty stomach to those close to me who are concerned.
At the Addiction Rehabilitation Center in Montreal, human relations agent Vicky Deschatelets invites people who want help not to hesitate to consult.
No matter the age, minor or adult. Generally, when people call us, it is for an external follow-up. Individual meetings once a week or every two weeks. We also do detox. 5 to 7 days in the room to remove the substance in the body and there is a full 21 days to resume a routine without this substance in the setting.
Vicky Deschâtelets, human relations officer at the addiction center of the CIUSSS du Centre-Sud-de-l'Île-de-Montréal.
She ensures that the workers respect the rhythm of the person and his will. When the user comes to our services, we will welcome him as much if his objective is total abstinence or control of his consumption and that is the case for all substances, she says.
And the support is done quickly. We are working very hard to keep it that way. When the person calls us, they think about it for 5 to 7 years before asking for help.
“When the person calls us, it is very important that we return the call and that we take care of it very quickly. »
— Vicky Deschatelets, Human Relations Officer
For Mathilde, the fight with alcohol is not over. I think it's the work of a lifetime! Before, it could happen to me 3 or 4 times a week to have a black-out and now it happens to me very rarely, but it can still happen to me. But, I have made a lot of progress over the past year.
Edgar Bori believes, for his part, that sobriety simply saved his life. The artist who made his stage debut hiding his face, disguised as a clown or behind a mask, has managed over the years to face his fears.
If I don' I hadn't stopped at the time, the wheel of my tank controlling my arms to crash into a concrete wall. Of course I would have killed myself. Today I am freed from what used to appeal to this need to drink. From the point of view of the other, I am free now!
In Montreal, to seek help for addiction problems: ( 514) 385-1232.
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